#leadership

I recently heard @drphil say this in his podcast and I loved the phrase and its meaning.

Not everybody or everything you lose is a loss…

It is so hard sometimes to see the blessings or the wins when we are faced with any kind of disappointment.

This happening can be personal or business related. It does not matter. At the moment, we simply struggle with pain, or frustration, or fear, or despair.

Often, it is the passing of time that shows us that the person that is no longer in our lives, that promotion we missed, or that business that crashed, proved to be a positive.

Maybe we had to pívot, maybe we had to grow, maybe we had to reflect or maybe we had to further our education.

At the end, losing might have been what made us succeed. What made us shine. What made us happier.

#makeitagreatday ☀️
#leadwithbj
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LWBJ: It's not Personal, It's Business

The fear of rejection in business and careers, is many times one of the biggest roadblocks to success, as rejection is simply part of business and life.

Thinking about this common fear, I was drawn to listen to this TEDx Talk: How Not To Take Things Personally. The speaker took a part-time job as a sports referee, to experience rejection and negative feedback at its worst. His goal was to hopefully learn to deal with his feelings and reactions. In a nutshell, he concluded that people's actions have either nothing to do with us or maybe they have all to do with us. And when they have to do with us, it is not necessarily due to how others feel towards us because of who we are, or what we do. It is mostly due to the fact, that other people's actions might trigger in us feelings, or assumptions, we have about ourselves.

People like to do business with people. So yes, business is personal. Our emotions and unique stories can be great for our business. However, it pays to train to manage emotions, and be alert to what triggers in us reactions that might not be the most desirable.

I invite you to watch my latest video on my youtube channel: What Triggers You? and maybe gain more insights.

"Business is personal, and relationships do matter," says Morag Barrett, the founder of the leadership development firm SkyeTeam and author of the new book "Cultivate: The Power of Winning Relationships." "This is a team sport. You are dependent on others for your success."

I will continue to send messages that will hopefully be inspirational and thought-provoking for you. I invite you to subscribe to the channel to be notified of new releases.

Stay healthy, joyful, and connected,
BJ


What Triggers You?

Thinking before reacting is one of those easier said than done tasks. And we can ask ourselves... Why did I say that? What just happened to me? Why did I overreact? Is it possible that I misread what happened and what was said? We can learn tools to manage these emotions and reactions in our favor.

Be Aware of Your Thoughts

Many of our thoughts are on autopilot and that can be very detrimental to ourselves because, often, the majority of those thoughts are not the kindest.

Learn how to manage them in 3 simple steps and see amazing results.

LWBJ: Standing Out From Your Crowded Field

Does everybody seem to be doing what you do?

 How do we succeed in a crowded field?  How do we stand out?

  1. Be unique - Find what makes you different.  

  2. Make your offer unbeatable.  

  3. Service people at your finest.

  4. Polish your image and optimize your proposition.

  5. Raise your hand at every desired opportunity.

  6. Focus. Focus. Focus.  Not a time for generalism

And since focus is key, make sure you learn techniques to Say NO:  Saying NO.  This week, in my youtube channel.  I speak about The Top 3 Reasons to Say NO.  I hope these simple techniques aid you to stand out by concentrating your efforts on the needle movers.   I will continue to send messages that will hopefully be inspirational and thought-provoking for you.  I invite you to subscribe to be notified of my weekly videos.

Stay healthy, joyful and connected,

BJ

“A star does not compete with other stars around it; it just shines.”   ― Matshona Dhliwayo

"Each one of you has something no one else has, or has ever had: your fingerprints, your brain, your heart. Be an individual. Be unique. Stand out. Make noise. Make someone notice. That's the power of individuals."  ― Jon Von Jovi

Saying No... 3 Reasons & 3 Questions

Yes, it is so easy to be a YES person. Everybody likes us better. It is so simple to be agreeable and we all love to be liked. We say yes a lot. However, how is that serving us? Or our goals?